The Art of Insight: Exploring the Difference Between Observing and Judging

As observers, our role is to refrain from passing judgment on a situation. When we engage in judgment, we veer away from our true observing mindset. Judgment often arises from our ego’s attachment to certain beliefs, which are frequently far from the truth.

True observation allows us to see beyond a person’s words and actions, transcending ego, judgment, attachment, and preconceived thoughts. It permits us to glimpse the authentic essence of a person.

Oftentimes, we hear people declare, ‘That person has shown me who they really are,’ but this can be a statement rooted in ego rather than genuine insight. Sometimes, we can discern a person’s true character by their words and their willingness to take responsibility for their actions. In such cases, they may be primarily concerned with themselves. To move beyond the ego-driven self, we must expand our focus to include ‘others.’

A memorable quote comes to mind: ‘Focus more on self and think less of self.’ This doesn’t imply self-absorption but rather emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, self-love, and understanding oneself without becoming overly self-centered. In relationships, we must recognize that it’s not just about us; there are others involved. Staying trapped in a victim mentality or believing that life revolves solely around our own grievances is a form of extreme selfishness, not selflessness.

Begin by observing a situation, sitting with it to understand how it made you feel physically and emotionally. After acknowledging your own reactions and observing the situation impartially, try to see it for what it is. Consider not only your own feelings but also those of the other party involved. Delve into your own experiences to identify moments when you may have behaved similarly.

Imagine a scenario where you have a disagreement with a partner, leading them to retreat and lock themselves in a room, leaving you feeling isolated and unheard. Reflect on whether you’ve ever reacted similarly, cutting someone off and making them feel unheard.

Through self-observation, you can cultivate compassion for others rather than reacting with frustration to a situation. This practice enables you to see beyond your ego and connect with a deeper understanding. As your consciousness evolves, you’ll develop a swifter ability to navigate challenging situations and find inner peace. Remember, we are all human beings, and occasional challenges are part of life; embrace them and love yourself through them.

Observation helps us gain a better understanding of ourselves, which in turn allows us to understand others more profoundly. This is the essence of true love.

Mantra: “I observe with compassion and understanding, embracing the truth beyond ego and judgment. In every moment, I seek to connect deeply with myself and others, fostering true love and inner peace.”

By embodying this mantra, we align ourselves with a deeper understanding and cultivate genuine connections with both ourselves and others